The Importance of Modeling Behavior

The age-old phrase "Actions speak louder than words," is true.  What you show your children by way of your behavior is often more important than what you say.  In the social work field, we call it "modeling behavior".  If you don't want your child to scream and yell when they get upset, you must first ask yourself if you would be calm in the same situation.  To ask our kids to behave differently (or more appropriately) than us is not only unrealistic.  It's hypocritical.

I believe that the Golden Rule offers some brilliant advice as it teaches us to treat others the way that we want to be treated.  You might remix it this way as you look to help your child behave positively... "Act the way that you would like others to act". 

Love does not dishonor others


Jeff Veley

Jeff Veley is youth speaker, bullying expert, and social skills educator.

His mission is to equip students with the social and emotional skills that empower them to face adversity, grow in resilience, and solve their own social problems by exercising the Golden Rule.

To date, Jeff's message has reached over one million people.  Jeff and his program have been recognized by the Interfaith Peace-Building Initiative of the United Nations and are a recipient of the Golden Rule International Award for effectiveness in teaching conflict resolution.  The United Nations officially recognizes Jeff as a Goodwill Peace Ambassador in over 120 nations of the world.