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Jeff Veley’s Blog

Expert insight for grownups featuring advice for parents, educators, and mental health professionals.

Roasting, a New Trend in Cyberbullying

While on tour this fall one of the most common questions I get from middle schoolers after giving an assembly is... "Mr. Jeff, can I roast you?"  While roasting isn't new, it's making a comeback and, instead of being a fun form of comedy, students are sometimes using...

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Tough and Tender Parenting

One of the most difficult thing about parenting is giving consequences.  After all, your children may respond completely differently when given the same consequence.  What is effective with one child may not be effective with another.  How do...

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Be Someone’s “Amy”

Listen to the clip above about the girl who changed my life with one simple act of kindness.  I've been looking for Amy since I was 14 years old.  I tried tracking her down via social media, phone books - everything I could think of, with no luck.  Until this... Love...

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Every Man Needs a Man Cave

Yep, you heard me right.   I'm a proud mancave advocate.  For years I have said that whenever I buy a house, I need a space like this.  I believe that everyone should have a special place set aside to decompress and I often encourage kids to pick a spot in their house...

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Loving Your Kids Through Consequences

Giving consequences can be tricky for a parent.  After all, who wants to punish a kid that they love.  If you do want to punish a child, it can often be in a moment of frustration.  You likely faced a consequence that you didn't deserve as a kid.  Perhaps you had a...

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Keeping a “Wrong” Record

You can likely relate to being in the middle of a disagreement and having the other person bring up something from the past that's completely unrelated to the issue at hand.  It's likely that this person has kept a record of wrongs. The 'wrong record' as I call it, is...

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Empowering Your Child to Deal with Haters

You can prevent your child from getting picked on.  Sadly, social aggression is a part of life.  You can teach them HOW to respond to mean behavior and handle haters. When you equip your child with social and emotional coping skills they will be empowered to face...

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A Humble Voice

A little over a year ago I posted a video to social media about a question that had been haunting me.  The question was "What would you do if you only had one year to live?  In concluding my thoughts, I realized that there were really two ways to live.  A person could...

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How to Get Your Teen to Open Up to You

Recently I had a camera crew follow me for several day on my live speaking tour as I visited middle and high schools.  They captured so many cool moments as I connected with kids, not only sharing my story, but also hearing theirs.  While combing through the interview...

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Bullying – Reporting VS. Empowerment

Why Many Anti-Bullying Programs Make Things Worse It's a question that administrators ask me every day... "Will hosting a bullying assembly cause student reporting to increase?" Let's be honest... You have enough to deal with. Reports of legitimate safety issues are...

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The Importance of Modeling Behavior

The age-old phrase "Actions speak louder than words," is true.  What you show your children by way of your behavior is often more important than what yousay.  In the social work field, we call it "modeling behavior".  If you don't want your child to scream and yell...

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The Anger Illusion

So often we view anger negatively but it is a natural emotion.  It is important to understand that anger is a secondary emotion, usually following fear, disappointment, or extreme sadness.  Anger itself is not bad unless it hurts us or others....

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Summer Structure

Most parents know that structure is a key piece in helping our kids manage daily tasks.  Summer is a great time to review family rules.  What rules will change over the summer?  Will there be new bedtimes, a change in chores, or curfew extensions?  Reviewing these...

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Resilience Revolution: Jeff Veley’s Story

For the past three weeks "Love Changes It All" has been pumping out stories of resilience through radio speakers across the country as well as this online blog.  I truly believe that one of the best ways to inspire those who are struggling and even want to give up on...

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Resilience Revolution: Meet Lizzie Velasquez

You're going to love hearing from Lizzie Velasquez in the video below.  As young people face cyber-bullying and rumors, Lizzie's story offers hope.  While I've never seen her birth certificate, I'm pretty sure that her middle name is either "resilience" or...

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Now Accepting Grant Applications

Apply for a Bullying Prevention Grant We are excited to begin offering grant writing services to schools in need of bullying prevention programming.  Your school can apply for a grant in as little as five minutes by clicking the button below.  Jeff's social and...

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Resilience Revolution: Meet Nick Vujicic

I first heard Nick's story years ago.  At the time, I had no idea who he was or the impact that his story would have on my life.  Maybe, like me, in the past few years you have had moments where you wanted to give up.  Perhaps you have faced obstacles and didn't know...

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How Much Do Schools Spend on Bullying?

It's no surprise that the issue of bullying comes at a cost to school districts.  The evening news is regularly filled with stories which include the testimonies of tearful students, frustrated parents, lawsuits, and student self-harm. Districts attempt to combat this...

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Dealing with an Authority Figure Who Bullies

It's always a pleasure to hear from our listeners who email me.  Feel free to drop me a question anytime at team@jeffveley.com You can get some further tips from my email response to Julie... Hi Julie, It surely sounds like this boss has some...

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The Golden Rule

The Golden Rule is one of the most well-known of all ancient teachings.  We often learn it as children but I would argue that we don't fully understand it or the power that it holds to transform relationships.  After all, when you hear "Treat...

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The Law of Reciprocity

The Law of Reciprocity can be easily summed up as "Treat others the way that they treat you".  Our naturally tendency as human beings is to allow the behavior of others to dictate how we treat them.  If they are nice to us, we are nice to them....

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T.H.I.N.K. Before You Post

The story of a teen using social media as her diary (heard in the audio clip above) You may ask "Did she really think that no one saw her posts?"  Believe it or not both teens and adults often post without first considering the consequences.  Reminding ourselves to...

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What Are You Wearing?

Dear Parent/Caring Adult, For several years I worked as the Production Manager for a fashion show for teens.  My family and friends thought it was hilarious.  It was.  I don't necessarily consider myself a fashion guru.  I'm more a jeans and t-shirt kind of guy.  I...

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