Jeff Veley’s Blog

Expert insight for grownups featuring advice for parents, educators, and mental health professionals.

Merry Christmas to You!

Enjoy this joyous time of year with those that you love most and spread a little love and kindness to someone that you don't know.  Together, we can make the world a little brighter.

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How to Manage Your Emotions

It's the holiday season and, among the hustle and bustle are a few extra opportunities to get your feathers ruffled.  Stress levels during "the most wonderful time of the year" tend to be at all-time high.  As you prepare for many family gatherings, prepare food,...

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What To Do When You Feel Unappreciated

This year marks the 25th anniversary of “The 5 Love Languages” by Dr. Gary Chapman.  The book is not only a classic for how to love well in relationships, but it’s also helped me solve a number of conflicts with people that I deeply care for.  It’s amazing how things...

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Building Self-Confidence

I recently read an article in the Dallas News.  The title immediately peaked my interest.  The headline read "Lawnmower Parents are Raising a Generation of Kids Who Struggle with Adversity".  Penned by Ramy Mahmoud, a teacher in Plano, TX, the article talks about how...

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Find Your Reason to Live

Listen on iTunes I had the pleasure of sitting down with one of my dearest friends, Yohan Daza, recently to join his new podcast.  "Find Your Reason to Live" takes a positive approach to the suicide problem and inspires those searching for hope by sharing stories of...

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Growing Your Child’s Self-Worth

For the next few weeks, my radio features and online blog will focus on helping children grow in three areas... Self-Worth Self-Esteem Self-Confidence As a parent, I believe the greatest thing you can say to help your child grow in the area of self-worth is "I love...

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Roasting, a New Trend in Cyberbullying

While on tour this fall one of the most common questions I get from middle schoolers after giving an assembly is... "Mr. Jeff, can I roast you?"  While roasting isn't new, it's making a comeback and, instead of being a fun form of comedy, students are sometimes using...

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Tough and Tender Parenting

One of the most difficult thing about parenting is giving consequences.  After all, your children may respond completely differently when given the same consequence.  What is effective with one child may not be effective with another.  How do...

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Be Someone’s “Amy”

Listen to the clip above about the girl who changed my life with one simple act of kindness.  I've been looking for Amy since I was 14 years old.  I tried tracking her down via social media, phone books - everything I could think of, with no luck.  Until this... Love...

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Every Man Needs a Man Cave

Yep, you heard me right.   I'm a proud mancave advocate.  For years I have said that whenever I buy a house, I need a space like this.  I believe that everyone should have a special place set aside to decompress and I often encourage kids to pick a spot in their house...

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Loving Your Kids Through Consequences

Giving consequences can be tricky for a parent.  After all, who wants to punish a kid that they love.  If you do want to punish a child, it can often be in a moment of frustration.  You likely faced a consequence that you didn't deserve as a kid.  Perhaps you had a...

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Keeping a “Wrong” Record

You can likely relate to being in the middle of a disagreement and having the other person bring up something from the past that's completely unrelated to the issue at hand.  It's likely that this person has kept a record of wrongs. The 'wrong record' as I call it, is...

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Empowering Your Child to Deal with Haters

You can prevent your child from getting picked on.  Sadly, social aggression is a part of life.  You can teach them HOW to respond to mean behavior and handle haters. When you equip your child with social and emotional coping skills they will be empowered to face...

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A Humble Voice

A little over a year ago I posted a video to social media about a question that had been haunting me.  The question was "What would you do if you only had one year to live?  In concluding my thoughts, I realized that there were really two ways to live.  A person could...

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How to Get Your Teen to Open Up to You

Recently I had a camera crew follow me for several day on my live speaking tour as I visited middle and high schools.  They captured so many cool moments as I connected with kids, not only sharing my story, but also hearing theirs.  While combing through the interview...

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Bullying – Reporting VS. Empowerment

Why Many Anti-Bullying Programs Make Things Worse It's a question that administrators ask me every day... "Will hosting a bullying assembly cause student reporting to increase?" Let's be honest... You have enough to deal with. Reports of legitimate safety issues are...

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The Importance of Modeling Behavior

The age-old phrase "Actions speak louder than words," is true.  What you show your children by way of your behavior is often more important than what yousay.  In the social work field, we call it "modeling behavior".  If you don't want your child to scream and yell...

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The Anger Illusion

So often we view anger negatively but it is a natural emotion.  It is important to understand that anger is a secondary emotion, usually following fear, disappointment, or extreme sadness.  Anger itself is not bad unless it hurts us or others....

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Summer Structure

Most parents know that structure is a key piece in helping our kids manage daily tasks.  Summer is a great time to review family rules.  What rules will change over the summer?  Will there be new bedtimes, a change in chores, or curfew extensions?  Reviewing these...

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Resilience Revolution: Jeff Veley’s Story

For the past three weeks "Love Changes It All" has been pumping out stories of resilience through radio speakers across the country as well as this online blog.  I truly believe that one of the best ways to inspire those who are struggling and even want to give up on...

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