Jeff Veley’s Blog

Expert insight for grownups featuring advice for parents, educators, and mental health professionals.

National School Walkout Day

  Today, many students across America will leave their classrooms at 10 am to demand change when it comes to guns and school safety.  In talking with educators, parents, and community members about National School Walkout Day, some believe this demonstration will do...

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The Power of Forgiveness

Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and hoping it kills the other person.  Harboring negative thoughts only harms the person holding onto them.  When you think of forgiveness in this way, you can quickly understand why it's one of the most powerful gifts you can...

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Investing When Others Run Away

If you want to freak out an enemy in your life, follow today's tip.  Whether it's someone that you are consistently at odds with or simply someone who posts a rude comment on social media, showing kindness and making an investment in someone when conflict brews will...

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Viewing Disagreements as Opportunities

Recently I had to work through a challenging disagreement with a friend.  To be honest, I didn't know how it was going to go.  It was one of those conversations that you dread, but know needs to happen.  While I knew that things could go south really quickly, I made...

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Leaving a Legacy

Yesterday I attended a funeral for a retired police officer and military veteran who passed away suddenly.  Standing in Texas cemetary with the cold wind blowing across my face, time seemed to slow down as I listened to the words of the chaplain who was officiating. ...

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Parenting Lessons from Wal Mart

I have to admit that when I first started in the social work field, I would occasionally visit Wal Mart to gather illustrations on parenting.  The people were always there and the demonstrations never disappointed.  Before you call me creepy, recognize that you do...

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Making Time in the New Year

As you set goals in 2018, I want to challenge you to think not only about personal goals but also goals for your family.  How do you want to love each other in 2018?  What things will you put in place to help you do so?  Research shows that writing down your goals...

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Merry Christmas to You!

Enjoy this joyous time of year with those that you love most and spread a little love and kindness to someone that you don't know.  Together, we can make the world a little brighter.

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How to Manage Your Emotions

It's the holiday season and, among the hustle and bustle are a few extra opportunities to get your feathers ruffled.  Stress levels during "the most wonderful time of the year" tend to be at all-time high.  As you prepare for many family gatherings, prepare food,...

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What To Do When You Feel Unappreciated

This year marks the 25th anniversary of “The 5 Love Languages” by Dr. Gary Chapman.  The book is not only a classic for how to love well in relationships, but it’s also helped me solve a number of conflicts with people that I deeply care for.  It’s amazing how things...

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Building Self-Confidence

I recently read an article in the Dallas News.  The title immediately peaked my interest.  The headline read "Lawnmower Parents are Raising a Generation of Kids Who Struggle with Adversity".  Penned by Ramy Mahmoud, a teacher in Plano, TX, the article talks about how...

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Find Your Reason to Live

Listen on iTunes I had the pleasure of sitting down with one of my dearest friends, Yohan Daza, recently to join his new podcast.  "Find Your Reason to Live" takes a positive approach to the suicide problem and inspires those searching for hope by sharing stories of...

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Growing Your Child’s Self-Worth

For the next few weeks, my radio features and online blog will focus on helping children grow in three areas... Self-Worth Self-Esteem Self-Confidence As a parent, I believe the greatest thing you can say to help your child grow in the area of self-worth is "I love...

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Roasting, a New Trend in Cyberbullying

While on tour this fall one of the most common questions I get from middle schoolers after giving an assembly is... "Mr. Jeff, can I roast you?"  While roasting isn't new, it's making a comeback and, instead of being a fun form of comedy, students are sometimes using...

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Tough and Tender Parenting

One of the most difficult thing about parenting is giving consequences.  After all, your children may respond completely differently when given the same consequence.  What is effective with one child may not be effective with another.  How do...

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Be Someone’s “Amy”

Listen to the clip above about the girl who changed my life with one simple act of kindness.  I've been looking for Amy since I was 14 years old.  I tried tracking her down via social media, phone books - everything I could think of, with no luck.  Until this... Love...

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Every Man Needs a Man Cave

Yep, you heard me right.   I'm a proud mancave advocate.  For years I have said that whenever I buy a house, I need a space like this.  I believe that everyone should have a special place set aside to decompress and I often encourage kids to pick a spot in their house...

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Loving Your Kids Through Consequences

Giving consequences can be tricky for a parent.  After all, who wants to punish a kid that they love.  If you do want to punish a child, it can often be in a moment of frustration.  You likely faced a consequence that you didn't deserve as a kid.  Perhaps you had a...

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Keeping a “Wrong” Record

You can likely relate to being in the middle of a disagreement and having the other person bring up something from the past that's completely unrelated to the issue at hand.  It's likely that this person has kept a record of wrongs. The 'wrong record' as I call it, is...

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Empowering Your Child to Deal with Haters

You can prevent your child from getting picked on.  Sadly, social aggression is a part of life.  You can teach them HOW to respond to mean behavior and handle haters. When you equip your child with social and emotional coping skills they will be empowered to face...

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A Humble Voice

A little over a year ago I posted a video to social media about a question that had been haunting me.  The question was "What would you do if you only had one year to live?  In concluding my thoughts, I realized that there were really two ways to live.  A person could...

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